I like this, too, in most situations of life. I personally do not tend to agree with views that, in therapy, the client can do whatever and everything should be the Ts responsibility to keep together, tolerate everything etc. Here we mostly talk about adult clients in outpatient services, so not so severely impaired individuals who are unable to make basic judgments and see their side of the construct. Even in the context of therapy that does encourage certain feelings of dependency etc in people that are prone to that or find that hierarchy emotionally appealing. I also do not believe that only people with seriously unmet needs and early life traumas can fall in the trap of such dependencies, it is much more complex IMO, and I often find it frustrating and annoying how simplistic the "therapeutic interpretations" can be. They can easily make people chase concepts and interpretations that have little or no relevance to their unique situation and history.

In any case, I do believe it is very healthy to look at these situations from various angles, including how our (the clients') own limitations distort and drive an experience. This can also help draw better boundaries and not accept any BS Ts or, more generally, the therapy industry are pushing ordinarily. Plus try to stop attempting to mind-read or except that anyone can do that (to Anne's point above).