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Originally Posted by here today
Maybe she doesn't see that as her job? Only to be a tree, and then your feelings, and actions, come up on their own? But years and years of that didn't help me -- there needed to be some others, to be with me, to witness me, something. . .I'm not sure exactly what.
For me, it has something to do with boundaries and being a person and being a separate person with some other separate persons. . .very hard to describe. And maybe very hard for therapy to try to help with. But they need to do a better job, IMO. .
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I wish I knew better what you ment because it sounds vaguely familiar. Being witnessed, seen, heard . Is there a common denimnator with all of us who get attached? - maybe loneliness? lack of strong emotional bonds irl, insecurity that prevents us from being more authentic? attachment style?
its fascinating how some of us are resistant to this lure and others even though cognitively strong get sucked in...