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Originally Posted by feileacan
I'm absolutely not judging you because I think I can understand how it feels violent and disappointing to you. But I wanted to say that your posts come off as if you really think that she has any obligations to coordinate her life with you, give you thorough explanations about her decisions etc. It feels that you truly want to control her and then are angry that she does not submit. It feels like you really believe that she should submit.
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Back up for a minute. I don't think she has any obligations. It just feels disorienting when she said so confidently and reassuringly while looking at me in the eyes last year that she would return for one year if she decides to stay in that city permanently. I believed her. But it seemed like an empty promise because she isn't even trying to honor it to some extent. Her words don't match her actions and decisions. That's what's disorienting to me.