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Originally Posted by feileacan
Absolutely! And paradoxically these situations give a very good opportunity to work with such issues.
I often get the vibe from these boards that successful therapy should be somehow pleasant experience and I totally disagree. Yes, pleasant experiences feel good but people are only inclined to move out of their comfort zones and really change something about themselves or their lives if the current situation has somehow become unbearable.
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This makes some sense to me, though I would have likely disagreed with it a few years ago. I feel that my current T pushing me out of my comfort zone has helped me make more progress in my real life. I liked and often miss ex-MC's warm, fuzzy style--but I also wonder if it's related to not making much progress with him (both individually and our marriage)? Which is why I'd be concerned about switching to a warm, fuzzy T at this point--it would feel good, but would it help me make progress?
Back to OP, this situation does really suck, and I'd be reluctant to say "it's a learning experience." Lately, it seems your T just keep disappointing you. And I don't know if that's particularly helpful to your progress. Which is why someone else might be helpful.