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Originally Posted by feileacan
Absolutely! And paradoxically these situations give a very good opportunity to work with such issues.
I often get the vibe from these boards that successful therapy should be somehow pleasant experience and I totally disagree. Yes, pleasant experiences feel good but people are only inclined to move out of their comfort zones and really change something about themselves or their lives if the current situation has somehow become unbearable.
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My experience of therapy is that it is unpleasant and painful. I have also experienced growth and insight as a result of difficult explorations. I don't know how others feel, but I would not describe therapy as a joyous experience.
Of course difficult emotions are the nature of the work, I wasn't disagreeing with that. I was reacting against the blithe suggestion that the ending of a significant relationship can be neatly tied up, understood and filed away as "oh well, one of life's experiences".
... After having typed that, I am wondering whether that was actually the tone of your posting. I suspect that my critical voice might be projecting something onto your posting: that I should be better at therapy, have made more progress, be closer to being a person who can tidy, understand, file away. Huh. Anyway, I am leaving what I have typed with acknowledgement that it could be a misfire.