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Originally Posted by mindmechanic
You know what feels so weird, too? Therapy feels artificial. Therapists give you unconditional and undivided attention, warmth, and care during the 50-minute meeting. Aside from an infant-mother relationship, no other relationship mimics such attunement. Therapy is a set-up and a trap. It sets up the patient to feel attached to and dependent on the therapist. After all, who doesn't like such one-way, undivided, and non-judgmental attention, warmth, and understanding from another person? But when the patient becomes attached to the therapist - because who doesn't such such attention(?) - the patient is seen as neurotic, pathological, or having unresolved childhood issues. I think that even a perfectly healthy person would grow attached in such a relational set-up.
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Yep, I've read comparisons between the therapeutic and maternal relationship before, with the one-sidedness and caring. In fact, T talked about it briefly today. And Ex-MC said to me one time how therapy can be very seductive, in the sense that it's one person so attuned to your needs and listening so intently. Ideally though, T's wouldn't see the client feeling such things as neurotic or pathological--they should realize what's going on. Yes, they may see such clients as having unresolved childhood issues (raises hand), but that's something to work through in therapy.