My mother had a saying (this was one of them anyway) Actions speak louder than words.

I understand what you mean about fake caring. A few words here and there don't help and can be upseting if help or support offered is not forthcoming.

I have become much better at recognising fake kindness now. One small positive that helps me protect myself.

In part we cannot feel our positive emotions well and we dwell on our negative ones. I think our brains have been programmed this way with the past traumas we have endured.

Sending hugs and kind thoughts to you