@Anne2.0: I don't know. I'm schizoid. I can go weeks without talking to anyone; my record is four weeks. I didn't even hear my own voice during that time when I'm alone. It took so much time to open up to another human being. I let my authentic, real self out with her. I thought the work was real and important. I know her world doesn't revolve around me; I try to remind myself of that. You know what, though? The therapist hypothesize that for whatever reason, I came to know deep pain and suffering from early life. So that's how I structure my life and view the world. Some of you may remember that I have trouble understanding ideas about family and love. In my eyes, I see everyone as having the same, equal value and self-worth. Just because I have blood ties or emotional connection with someone or know them for a longer period of time doesn't mean that I "love" or "care" about them more significantly than I do a random stranger. Whether I "love" someone or not depends on whether they need it and are in great need of help. Say if a family member or a close acquaintance and a stranger is in need of help. Who I decide to help would be based on whoever is in the most pain or suffering and great need of help and that not helping that person would result in very sad, tragic consequences. Pain and suffering is all I see. And I see view minimizing pain and suffering as the greatest virtue of life. I feel that it's the wisest and virtuous thing to do. That's why I wonder, too, that given this line of reasoning, the therapist should move back here because her physical presence for patients would result in a greater decrease in pain and suffering. If there is more objective pain and suffering in Boston, then I understand her staying there. But by the sounds of it, her grandson may be fine. Even if her grandson is not fine, that is one life compared to 15 to 20 lives in another state where her patients are at.