One positive thing I frequently do is message with a friend or two (sometimes in my car in the parking lot). It can help me process what happened, sometimes give me another perspective if I'm bothered by something T said. I often will post on here, though I've learned it can be better to hold off on posting about the full session until I've had time to process it myself and decide how I feel about it.

This is not the healthiest thing, but I'll often have a beer or two. If it was a particularly difficult session, I'll often do that at a local restaurant or taproom, so that I'm out among people. It serves as a sort of reward for getting through session, and I often worry if I go home, I'll just curl up on the couch and cry. I sometimes bring my laptop with me and do work while I'm out, which I might have had more trouble doing at home. Sometimes I'll go to a coffee shop instead or run an errand or two.

ETA: I'm more likely to go out if H is working from home, because I like having what I considered to be "mental space" after a session. I'll often be sort of glazed over, lost in thought, and I don't necessarily want H to notice or be asking about it, though he doesn't usually ask--I'll sometimes say had a tough/intense session, so might be a little spaced out, and he'll say OK.

Other things include listening to music, writing a few notes about session, sometimes composing an email to T that I may or may not send (I often try to wait until the next morning to see if I still feel the need to reach out). Occasionally I might hold the transitional object (stone) I have from him. The next day, sometimes a yoga class or a walk outside.