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Originally Posted by mindmechanic
Pain and suffering is all I see. And I see view minimizing pain and suffering as the greatest virtue of life. I feel that it's the wisest and virtuous thing to do. That's why I wonder, too, that given this line of reasoning, the therapist should move back here because her physical presence for patients would result in a greater decrease in pain and suffering. If there is more objective pain and suffering in Boston, then I understand her staying there. But by the sounds of it, her grandson may be fine. Even if her grandson is not fine, that is one life compared to 15 to 20 lives in another state where her patients are at.
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This jumped out at me, and is certainly the hardest part to accept. Due to the fact that your therapist has spent so long focusing only on your needs (at least till late), it must feel like she exists just for you and for her other clients. However, she has every right to live where she is most happiest. As a client, it is your right and responsibility to be accountable for your own welfare and wellbeing. Same goes for the other 15-20 clients. Therapy is not meant to be a life commitment and she isn’t tethered to all of you forever and ever. At some point, she needs to focus on what makes her happiest and that might be her grand baby even if it’s just one life compared to many.
It’s so, so hard reconciling our own place in our therapist’s lives. I so badly wanted to be a priority in my ex-therapist’s life, but it just wasn’t meant to be. Her needs will always come first, with family as a close second.