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Old May 24, 2019, 09:08 AM
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Originally Posted by Salmon77 View Post
My T likes me. I know because he has said so, and because of his general manner. Also he offered to reduce my fee by a lot when I was unemployed. He doesn't extend sessions, offer outside contact, or make "daring" jokes (I'm not sure what this means).

I don't know if that's countertransference though? I think it's possible he just likes me as a person, without being reminded of his mother or sister or something.

You make a good point here that it's not necessarily countertransference. I also feel my T just likes me as a person, and I imagine we'd get along fairly well if we'd met in some other setting, too.

With ex-MC though, I think that while he presumably liked me as a person (and he's said "I like you guys" to me and H before), there was also some paternal and/or erotic countertransference going on that led him to be loose and inconsistent with boundaries and things he said to me.
Thanks for this!
Merope