I need to clarify one point that I remembered incorrectly.

When all this started, the therapist said that she might have to move to care for her grandson. She said that if that does happen, she would give all her patients one year's notice before moving. But circumstances changed and her one year's notice became one month's notice. She broke this news in May 2018 and left in June 2018. She said that she had every intention of returning.

From the gecko, I said to her, "The longer you stay in xxxxxx city, the more reasons you would have to not return." She said, "I'm not like that."

Can I say I told her so?

Even though her grandson still needs her care, that is why she is choosing to stay there, she also made a final decision to live there permanently for the rest of her life. My worst fear that I predicted all along in May 2018, came true.

The therapist said that after failing to meet her promise to give her patients one year's notice before moving, she didn't make the same promise again. This was my memory failing me on my part, so sorry folks.

That said, however, it still does feel like a betrayal. After all, she said that she's "not like that." I specifically told her that she would eventually find more reasons to stay there. She said no; that won't happen. But it did. I understand that her grandson needs her care. However, if he doesn't need her care, would she at least try to honor the earlier promise of giving her patients one year's notice? I know she failed the first time. But what was her intention of saying that in the first place? It sounded very principled. If circumstances allow, would she honor it even though she will be moving permanently at the end of the day?

A year's notice became a month's notice. A temporary move with her intention of coming back became a permanent move. She said that she's not like that in the sense that she wouldn't find more reasons to stay there aside from her grandson, but as it turns out, she did. How can I not feel betrayed even though "things change, and things happen?" If she didn't say these things so firmly, confidently, and reassuringly, I wouldn't feel as betrayed.

ETA: Here's the deal. When I said to her, "The longer you stay in xxxxxx, the more reasons you have to stay there and not return," she said, "I'm not like that." She said it so confidently. If she had said, "I don't know the future. Maybe I'll find more reasons to stay there. Maybe I won't. I don't know the future. But I remain committed to our work wherever I end up," I wouldn't feel as betrayed. She portrayed herself so confidently in certain way, but didn't live up to it. Of course I feel betrayed. If she didn't say "I'm not like that," I wouldn't feel as betrayed. I would feel sad, but I wouldn't feel this hurt and betrayed. Because as it turns out, she was, indeed, "like that."