First off I'm not talking about performance anxiety, I guess the only way to describe it is like whenever an opportunity comes to sleep with someone new I just can't unless I'm drinking. It's not like I'm not ready for sex because I am, it's just that first time with a new person I just can't get myself to do it unless I'm drinking and it's terrible. It may have something to do with my past trauma? But I just want to have a normal sex life and I want to sleep with this guy I've known for 8 months now but whenever I even think of trying to start it it's like my brain goes into preteen mode and has no clue wtf I'm doing. I know that I want to, i know that wants to but he always feels like he's pressuring me because of how anxious I get so we aren't getting anywhere and its stressing me out more. Does anyone else have this issue? Or had it? Or just know how to get over it?