Re-reading your original post, I feel terrible for you because this does seem on a certain level to be a betrayal of trust. In a big, deep way. The hurt from that must resonate with other betrayals of trust.

Re-reading my own post in a roundabout way - apart from sending you care - I'm trying to say that once we are adult we have to realise that all humans are fallible. Very young kids may live in an inner world where they are the centre of the universe for their parents, if they are lucky. Feel free to kick her *** from here to hell and high water, but don't throw all your energy away on this situation! You have your own life to live, and you are more important than just one relationship with a therapist.

It's your responsibility not to let this be all-consuming, just as much as it's your responsibility to take care of the hurt you feel in whatever way seems appropriate to you.

One last thing came up for me just as I was about to press the Post button. In order to feel cared about by your therapist, you don't have to be compliant with her misjudgement or her rationalisations. You can hold onto your truth with as much tenacity as she is defending hers. This might be important!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep holding onto your truth and wait to see whether she will step back from her own defensive position over time .