I agree with the other wise advice on your thread and want to wish you well with it. Whenever I don't know what to say, just starting with the truth of what has happened has not led me astray so far. We all do things that we know are not good for us, although only some of these are labeled "self harm." To stop doing them requires breaking that association between what prompts us to do it and actually doing it. Bob Newhart (old TV show) had an episode where Bob (the therapist) just shouted at people to "stop it." It was funny because it was so true, but everyone's path to just stopping it is different. I do think if you just explained what happened, your T may have a more objective perspective and maybe can see things you can't about what's linked to what.