When he was in those 3 facilities where he had short stays, I ended up going in and doing much of his care. Even that is not so bad. I was able to come home at night and be "off duty" till the next day.

Do you think that might be a better option for you overall, Rose? As you say, at least you can go home at night and get a little rest. And out of your concern you are at the facility during the day, improving the quality of his care. And you are able to get some rest and recuperation instead of absolutely continuous slogging drudgery.

As to the nursing homes, it is pretty shocking when you find out what really goes on there. I guess, as a licensed nurse yourself, you just know a little too much.