IRL, I have two of my oldest college girlfriends who are both domineering personality types, one is very controlling of others, and the other one is just plain domineering.

They both kind of talk down to me, as though I am too naive about the world and how it works, and as though I don't know how to handle any of life's problems.

However, I have always worked out my biggest life problems. I have always landed on my feet through troubled times. I have always navigated my way through life on my own, as well as through the help of professionals, my family and closest friends.

The last phone conversation I had with the one who is very domineering, she kept saying to me, "do you understand? Do you understand?" As though I am a child who may not understand and who has NO comprehension. It was very demeaning to me, and I wish I had confronted her on it at the time.

She jumped in with very unsolicited advice and coaching about a work issue I was having. I didn't even ask for advice, yet she assumed that she must "educate" me on the work world, how it works, and how to navigate it.

I've been working full-time most of my adult life, and I am 48 years old! That means I've been working for the last 25 years! I have been around the block for a long time now. I certainly can handle myself professionally and navigate the work environment.

The next time I speak with either one of these women, I want to confront the issue with them.... and let them know that in fact, I CAN HANDLE IT, whatever it is that I am facing.

Most importantly, I don't need either one of them coaching me and/or telling me what to do, which is what they both LOVE to do with me. It is very irksome.

Anyone have any advice on the best way to approach this with them? Without getting defensive and angry?