May 26, 2019 at 08:16 AM
I could not ask for help as I could not describe what was actually the problem I need help for and I was so afraid of my mother. The fear kept me silent. I obviously asked for help as an adult by finally seeking therapy at at 45 but I still have problems asking for help for fear of retaliation, rejection. I think that is why I am always so reluctant to email my therapist or contact him when I am feeling like I need help. I fight a that part so bad it becomes an overwhelming emotion that I want to hurt myself. Anyway I do ask a little more than I did in the past.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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