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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
Do you think confronting them about a past event is the way to go or should you wait until the next patronizing, controlling comments happen and address it then? I am just wondering if they will be receptive to something that already happened and something they may have already forgotten or shelved. Its important to you for sure but they might downplay it or negate it because to them its in the past. Its a tough spot. There are people I have had to confront about past events and people that I have had to confront because of something current and its gone both ways. In some cases they are actually unaware and apologetic about something and in other cases they are defensive. I have found that people are more likely to get defensive about something in the past verses being called out on it as its happening. But at the same time I understand your need to address something in the past to prevent it from happening in the future. I get wanting to stand up for yourself and your ability to have a solid work ethic in order to prevent anymore crap in the future- I am not sure what the best course of action is. I adore you though eve and offer my support because you seem capable enough of dealing with your own ***** and do not need anyone talking down to you.
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Aww thanks Sarahsweets! You're one of my favorites on here!
I should clarify: I don't want to confront on anything already passed. I meant the next time it happens...... I want to be able to say it right then and there in the moment. I am typically thrown off and clam up when it's in the moment.
I am still learning how to have a voice and be assertive without seeming defensive or angry about something.
Good news is: I am not angry about this anymore. I just want to confront it when it happens again.