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Originally Posted by Anne2.0
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I don't say this with disrespect, and apologize if it comes across as anything but "this is how I see it." I can't possibly know what's true or right for you but there are some pieces of your experience in and out of therapy that resonate within me. But this thing you say "my father killed himself when I was a child and then I lost my mother because I had to cut her out of my life but I'm over it all", I just think that's b.s. Maybe you're at least partway done grieving, but the meaning of these two things as a collective seems like a big deal, powerful.
You're an orphan. And you have no problems with that? No need to page Dr. Freud.
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For what it is worth -- very well nothing, maybe less than that -- I find this statement extremely harsh and unkind. It hurts me. . .that's certainly my issue, because I'm not Lrad. Maybe it doesn't hurt Lrad, maybe it's helpful to her. But if it were me, I would have to numb out what feels like attacks, and so wouldn't be able to process what you may be trying to say, with what may be an intent to be helpful.
People are different. As you point out about yourself, I, too, can't possibly know how your statement may impact somebody else. But just FYI I thought it possibly might be useful to know how it comes across to me.? If not, please ignore this or I apologize, too.
My parents are both dead, so I'm an orphan. But with them dead it's very real and very apparent that I was an orphan a long time before they actually died. That's been a real toughie, yes.