Hello pfoel: I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central. There are forums, here on PC, dedicated to the subjects of anxiety & depression. Here are links to these forums:

https://psychcentralforums.com/anxie...c-and-phobias/

https://psychcentralforums.com/depression/

I don't think there is anything I can offer personally with regard to your concern. However here are links to 4 articles, from Psych Central's archives, on the subject of relationship OCD:

Is It Anxiety or OCD?

Relationship OCD

Relationship OCD and the Doors of Uncertainty

https://psychcentral.com/lib/when-oc...-relationship/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.