It was brave of you to talk to your therapist about it. [emoji173]

Eventually, the feelings of wanting your T to be your friend might become less intense as you work on your issues and start to have more long term positive, mutual, healthy friendships in your outside life.

I valued the work in my therapy more than I wanted my Ts to be my friends (and they were even colleagues and friends with each other) so I kept reminding myself of that even as I sometimes told them how much I wanted them to be my friends. They would remind me we couldn't be friends but I could learn what I valued in potential friends and then make healthier choices and efforts to meet people and form friendships. It wasn't easy and it wasn't quick after years of loneliness and emotional isolation but I do have close friends now, so the wanting has lessened. I'm glad T has her own friends though I sometimes do still wish I could be there for her on her bad days.

At least that's been my experience and I went through a few years of wishing current T and ex T could be my friends.