Hm-m-m-m...well... I'm just of the opinion that some things people do (some things I did) are sufficiently destructive it would not be appropriate for the person to forgive themselves. The persons they harmed can forgive them if they so choose. That's their prerogative. But the person who caused the damage to begin with has no business forgiving themselves. Of course I'm talking about seriously destructive acts here, not the lesser things we all do from time-to-time that we later regret. I've been guilty of those sorts of things as well.