(((Sunny))) You are so impressive working through each piece of the D and I know you are making progress. Is the end, or at least a milestone, in sight? It sounds like you've worked through a lot of the process already, so I'm hoping deciding some of these parenting issues means you'll be able to file soon.

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After those bad experiences, the porn is just a trigger for me. But those feelings are about me and my hurt not about protecting my kids, so in our current meetings I try to stuff my personal feelings down as they aren't relevant to the child discussion. But then T says I shouldn't.

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I don't think those feelings are just about you. There is a lot of that and that is ok. But, I'm wondering if those feeling are also all about you protecting your girls and wanting something better for them. It is about protecting them. Could that be why T said "no no no"? That he wants you to trust yourself to know that part of your experiences will help you formulate what is best for your children.