I have nothing more to add to what all the other wise, wonderful posters have already wisely said better than I ever could, ennie! You're not selfish for taking care of yourself! Just be honest and tell them that perhaps that just isn't the right time to talk about such things or that you don't feel qualified enough to give an appropriate reply! I feel like that should work! It's straight to the point! Be kind but firm! Please don't feel guilty about it! You're doing nothing wrong, really! It is perfectly ok to set BOUNDARIES and to just say that you don't feel like talking about it at the moment! Sending many hugs to you, ennie!