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Christina86 said:
I think you're establishing boundaries (or trying to), and that's a GOOD thing! It's hard though, really hard.

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oooooooooooooooooh yeah, boundaries... man i forget about those. my old t used to help me work on that... we finally got mom to *knock* before just barging into my room.
('m in my 30s) these days, she rarely ever knocks... and i'm still not allowed to close my own room door. Or rarely.... our boundaries are so emmeshed. when i try to make some or hold them, i feel like i'm being a terrible terrible person - and she makes sure i know that, too.
i need to move out so i can be independent of her
i need a job so i can move out!
i need my sanity so i can get a job!!