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Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins
Many of us have spent our lives never having our joys and triumphs acknowledged. Others deal with depression or self-esteem issues, and being able to even see those joys and triumphs much less talk about them is foreign to us. Others have made progress in therapy, and those joys and triumphs are our victories and evidence of progress and healing. I'm sure there are many other reasons those kinds of discussions are helpful and validating of our worth and strength and perseverance.
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I agree with this. I think they can be useful in showing progress--particularly the triumphs. Though I think it can be useful for a T to understand what brings us joy as well--like my T knows that music, particularly live music, has a lot of meaning for me and can bring me lots of joy. So that helps him understand more if I'm talking about something involving music. And I think it gives him a better sense of me as a person--if I only talked about the negative, he might have less of a sense of how to help me. I guess it's part of knowing what motivates me, too. And the validation when I have some sort of triumph can feel good and affirming as well--with his confirming that something I did is progress. I mean, ideally, I guess I ultimately wouldn't need that validation/confirmation, that just my feeling I've made progress is enough, but it's helpful for me at this point in my therapy.