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Originally Posted by susannahsays
The therapist said "orgasm" in our last session and I was shocked. It helped to remind myself that the puritanical negative connotations around sexual subjects is not something I want a part of. Society has conditioned me to be uncomfortable but that reflects values I don't actually share.
That doesn't mean it's easy. For now, I am trying to work on tolerating the therapist using words like "orgasm." I think it gets easier over time. I was also shocked the first time she said certain other sex-related words/phrases, but I am less so now (although I can't bring myself to also use most of those words/phrases yet).
If your therapist said "orgasm," that would indicate to me that he is capable of tolerating sex talk - because sexual pleasure is probably the most taboo concept of all.
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I glad your T seems comfortable with it and it's getting easier for you.
There are definitely many more reasons to think my T would be okay with it. Like he's said he would not be uncomfortable with the idea of me fantasizing about him sexually or discussing it. This came up because I was talking about the guilt and shame I felt for thinking about him outside of session in a non sexual way, and I used a hypothetical comparison to sexual fantasies to try to explain how I felt. He said he wouldn't be at all uncomfortable with that either. So rationally I don't think this will make him uncomfortable.