Why are you supporting grown men? I understand paying tuition if you can afford it but paying for everything? I don’t know anyone who doesn’t work through college even having very wealthy parents. And if kids play house, they support themselves. Such exuberant over the top spoiling possibly contributes to sense of entitlement and arrogance. I can’t wrap my mind around it.

Ring is a non issue. No one wants to propose with diamond provided by mommy. I sure wouldn’t wear the kind of ring. I selected what I liked and what I knew would be suitable for my future husbands finances. If your son can’t afford the ring and is still dependent on you, he shouldn’t be getting married. But not using your ring or ring provided by you is really a non issue. He is not royalty.

I think him not calling you might be just one of the symptoms of a bigger issue.

Why are your kids not required and not even wanting to work through college (not saying full time) like everyone else? Both my nephews worked all through engineering schools (which are tough schools) and my brother is very well off. My daughter worked part time all through undergrad and did grad school on her own while working full time, I am doing fine but am not rich, my ex husband is literally a millionaire, so she wouldn’t have to work if she didn’t want to but why wouldn’t she want to have her own money? I literally know no one who relies on parents for allowances past high school. How can he even date if he doesn’t have a single penny of his own?

Why are you spoiling them so much? I see no point in it, it just creates this standoffish attitude.