Hello VAVeronica: Thank you for bringing your concern here to PC. I see this is your first post. So... welcome to Psych Central.

I'm sorry you had to endure all abuse. I'm not a mental health professional. But my personal opinion is that it certainly was abuse both verbal & emotional. I don't know why the therapists you've seen would have said it was not. I see you list yourself as being in the Czech Republic. Perhaps it's a difference in culture?

Here are links to 4 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that talk about verbal & emotional abuse:

Signs of Emotional Abuse

11 Signs You're the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse

What It's Like to Be a Complex Trauma Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse

These 5 Self-Care Practices Can Save Your Life After Emotional Abuse

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.