This isn't about that, necessarily. This isn't about my friends wanting me to be their emotional support. They ASSUME that I need to be told what to do and HOW to do it. They both are .very controlling people and step in to educate me, to talk down to me and to make me feel as though I cannot do anything for myself. As I said before, one friend kept saying "do you understand? Do you understand?" As though I may not get it at all. It was most irritating!!! I liked Seesaw's suggestion about just telling them upfront that I can handle it and don't need advice.