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eskielover · May 29, 2019, 10:27 AM

That is a great realization. The problem is that expecting ANYONE to fully understand is an impossible expectation because unless you are the one actually going through it with your own emotions & perspective of what is going on....they can't FULLY understand. They can only assume some level of understanding.

It's the ones that deny that it happened & tell you it was actually a different scenario that are the ones that are of no help.

I am glad you have seen that you did have several who did try to help you. Sometimes their help get lost in the noise of our own thoughts.

I also know for myself that my mom & probably my mother cared about me & wanted to help but they were both too dysfunctional in their own ways to even comprehend how to help. They tried to do their best BUT......I had no idea how much their dysfunction fed into my problem from the beginning.

We don't have to wear our scars on our sleeves as a badge of what we have gone through or to continually get validation of how bad it was (which it was bad) or even as our identity. Those things become learning experiences we do file into our minds storage. I find that when topics come up in conversation those lessons learned from experience are able to be shared as learning information to others.

Great realization going through those photos & letters