you say you are independent but are you?

you complain about the calls but YOU call them every day. skip a day every now and then. the world will not end. i promise you that. want more independence..start acting like it. you are old enough to go a few days without talking to your parents.

do they have a house key? change the locks. it is your apartment.

mom uses your apartment like it is her own.....well yea...you are her son ..you ask her to bring stuff to you. they stay with you. they bought the furniture. it is "their second home" you have done nothing to convince them it isn't..complaining here about it is a good vent but won't solve the issue.

you want them to sleep elsewhere..save your $$ and get them a hotel room..call it a treat for them. maybe they will get the message...probably not but it might help.

parents are angry now..you gave them options , which is good. and they didn't like that. it's ok. so now they are feeling the anger. again the world won't end. if they skip this visit..it's actually a good thing. you set boundaries and they got mad. it's like a kid who got told no. they will settle...don't cave...what ever you do. if you cave, you will never win another spat ever again.

wars are one by winning battles....one ti ny step at a time.

be the "independent" man you want to be...straighten the backbone and take a stand. mom will not die from a broken heart over this. dad is just reacting because mom is carrying on. but you have to start being the one who buys your own stuff, etc.

YOU have to be the one to take a firm stand here. it's time for you to grow up and stand strong. your parents have paid for everything. mom is being mom. the mom she has always been. if you don't tell her you are going out then you won't have to text her. does she really need to know?