With Emdr T what I told everybody including both Ts it was to deal with my trauma and figure out how to cope with it. The reality and what I recently told Emdr T when T moved out of state and was commuting to work I feared she would fond the 2 1/2 hour drive each way to much so she would retire. I feared she would retire and I would still be trying to figure out how to deal. I thought Emdr was supposed to be really quick (had one Emdr T tell me it would take one appointment). My goal was see emdr for a very short period of time "fix" the problem and then when T retired I would be fine. LOL nothing worked as planned. Now I see her for everything and it will not be ending any time soon.