I'm so sorry that you've been through so much. I'm concerned about the "reveal" as well. If you are into meeting people online https://www.nolongerlonely.com/ might work for you. Perhaps meeting someone at a support group or something like that?

I was telling my Rebbetzin about my concerns because I do want to get married one day. What she said was so simple yet so profound. We all have our issues. I just have to remember that no one is perfect (that helps me ease up on myself and hope that a man would be interested if we're compatible). But yeah, I do still have concerns about how to bring it up. But honestly, I've seen friends and family with MI and other struggles still couple up so I'm optimistic.