Hey there! Good question. First off, people may have their own personal definitions of asexuality. I see myself as being on the asexual spectrum. I've never had sex because I need to have an emotional connection with someone and it is very hard for that to happen. Demisexual may describe me, which means that sexual attraction comes after an emotional connection, but even though I've had emotional connections with the people who I found attractive, I've yet to feel sexual attraction. I can't do one night stands (even though there's nothing wrong with one night stands). Another term is gray sexual, which means that you feel sexual attraction sometimes or rarely under certain circumstances.

For me, demisexual fits. I always thought I had to force myself to feel sexual attraction. I thought there was something wrong but, since I started researching asexuality, things make a lot of sense.

Many people think that asexuals dont have sex. There are some aces (term for people who are asexual, although some people may not use it) who do have sex with their partners. They may actually enjoy it but just won't feel that sexual attraction. This is where many people get confused. Feeling sexual attraction does not go hand in hand with having sex. The two are different. I wish I could come up with an analogy but nothing comes to mind. Like...Holding hands, for example. That's seen as an intimate and romantic act. You might like holding hands with someone but may not be romantically attracted to them. The act is different from the feelings.

I hope this all makes sense! =)