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Originally Posted by golden_eve
Aww thanks Sarahsweets! You're one of my favorites on here! 
I should clarify: I don't want to confront on anything already passed. I meant the next time it happens...... I want to be able to say it right then and there in the moment. I am typically thrown off and clam up when it's in the moment.
I am still learning how to have a voice and be assertive without seeming defensive or angry about something.
Good news is: I am not angry about this anymore. I just want to confront it when it happens again. |
I’ve experienced this.... quite a bit... I realized I had two choices.... stop sharing anything with friends or get new friends.... I did a little bit of both.
This may or may not be your decision but it’s what I needed for personal space and reflection.
I stopped sharing with the friends who bossed or judged me. I am kind and friendly and still talk to them but just stopped sharing. They aren’t really friends after all in my case.....
I’ve had a lot of great advice from friends here on PC... you included. I come to you folks for heartfelt advice and I’m now extremely careful what I say IRL. Maybe in time I’ll learn to handle my communication better and to build trust with people again.
Let me know if confronting the issue head on helps. It would probably be the best thing in order to build and maintain strong friendships. I just haven’t had the patience or stomach for it lately. [emoji3590]