I emailed T saying I felt a bit vulnerable, and asking for some reassurance (including that when he said 'I didn't run' he didn't mean he wanted to) and he sent me this gorgeous reply
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I am not surprised you are having (or have had) a bit of a wobble after such an intense session. I am glad you captured the sequence of feelings - the vulnerability, shame and fear following on.
What you said is okay, you are okay. What has changed is that you have taken another step in daring to reveal yourself and nothing bad happened, so perhaps you are a bit more okay than you were yesterday. I hope that makes sense.
A more accurate comment by me would have been ".. and I notice that I had no inclination to run out of the room." It really did feel okay to me that you shared your feelings.
Reflecting on my admission of feeling it was a bit scary (anxious probably more accurate) I was reminded of Wilfred Bion saying something along the lines that there should be two frightened people in the therapy room. I agree with him - you put great trust in me and that is indeed a responsibility, which it is important I take seriously.
I hope this helps you relax with yourself,
Warm wishes, T
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