I am just starting to feel like things are going better with my T after our rupture. I felt things were also being harmful and finally told her that I needed to take a break from therapizing while not taking a break from seeing her. We ended up doing jig saw puzzles for 6 weeks (18 sessions). I think there may have been 2 or 3 sessions in there that we talked, most sessions consisted of less than 10 sentences that wasn't just generic jig saw puzzle commentary. It's been about a month now since we started talking again.

Sometimes it takes time, give yourself the time.

And for what it's worth, I agree that a good T is one that can handle a rupture well and acknowledge their role in the rupture. I think my T is a good one. I'm not sure she handled it well in the beginning. She has been patient and has been more what I needed of her since it blew up. She never apologized, she has acknowledged that perhaps timing wasn't right or things did not land as intended, not well received.

Is this your first rupture with this T? What would her being humble look like? You have an example from your past, could sharing that here in contrast to what your current T is doing be helpful?