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Originally Posted by octoberful
Neglect is often minimized and misunderstood. You wouldn't have the tendencies you have-focusing on others, discomfort when the focus is on you, taking care of others, having shame with your needs, and the defenses, erc, if it was minimal.
My history of neglect had a profound effect on me, worse that all the other abuses, which were really bad.
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I’m not sure about this. Are you saying that if I meet someone in my daily life who is kind, thoughtful and puts others first I can assume they were neglected as a child? Because those all seem like good qualities.