Since you love him--resist the urge to say you want to divorce him. I have said this to my husband in order to hurt him back when our fights got really bad but, then, when I tried, I just couldn't. I can't live without him. But if he should ever want to leave me, I won't fight it. Love is not controlling. Love endures even if the other person isn't always the person you want them to be. Passionate love is that sometimes there is no better feeling than being with them. Sometimes we don't want to feel how hurt we are because we are scared by the fact that someone has such control over our hearts. Pushing them away won't fix it. Love them whenever they allow it but when they are hurtful, walk away. Say "I won't allow you to talk to me that way," and leave the room. If you engage while they are hurting you, you will say something just to hurt them back. Disengage.