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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
Oh eve, I am so sorry! I do not know how old you are but I suspect I was married much younger. My husband proposed to me when I was 19 and I was pregnant when I was 20. We just moved the wedding up. We had many petty fights and I remember taking off my engagement ring and throwing it once. I was insecure and we went from living with our parents to living with each other. Did you two live with each other all ready? My wedding night as my husband unwound all the corsets and garments I started to cry, I cried so hard. I cried for my youth and for up and coming motherhood. I cried because we were both in school still and were going to be poor for a long while. The funniest(now) fight we had started over honey mustard chicken which I didnt know he hated. I was so offended I threw a hard rubber ducky at his leg and ping him good. It hurt at the time but we laugh at it now. I do not know what to tell you about your situation. Its really rough. I know you said he wont go to couples counseling but would he consider it as a "save the marriage" sort of thing?
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Hi Sarah. Thanks.... I am 48 & he is 46. He told me previously that he will never go to couples counseling. For him, if that is mentioned, it means the relationship is over. That's his way of not looking at himself. I will definitely not bring it up.
The toughest part is getting him to see how he contributes to our fights. He does apologize, however, when he has offended me or hurt my feelings (after I tell him he has). But the biggest issue is he doesn't see what he does that escalates our fights or even starts them. I don't even argue... he starts all our arguments.