I had a group of "them" and told my therapist and she told me to tell "them" she didn't believe they existed. I almost had a panic attack right then and there but laughed instead; she was a little oriental woman and the image of "them" attacking her or me because of what she said was funny, she was like a bantam rooster. It worked though!

I think you need someone outside, other than your husband to talk to. You can only get so much squeezed inward (I did that for many years in my head, living in a fantasy world), you need to learn how to make some space out from you so you have room. Took me many many years of therapy but I'm great now.