I know that all relationships take work, that they are not always a bed of roses, and that most relationships have problems along with their joys.

I have had many unhealthy and toxic relationships. I have also had a few healthy relationships. My relationship feels like a mixture of healthy and unhealthy... toxic and not toxic.

I also know from experience and from just being alive for 48 years that I can only change MYSELF. I cannot change him, but I CAN lay down what is OK and not OK with me.

I know I can have limits and boundaries. And with him, I need to set limits and create strong boundaries.

What's interesting is that this is exactly what I need to learn in my life right now... limits and boundaries.

And what's REALLY particularly strange and bizarre to me?????

JUST before I met my husband, maybe but a few months before, I had prayed to God and said "Dear God, please send me the man who will marry me. You know exactly what I need. I leave it up to you." The very next man I met was my soon to be husband, who woooed me like crazy to marry him. And boy, did he ever woo me!!!!!

So did God send me what I needed the most? Someone who would teach me about limits and boundaries? Someone who would give me the tools and skills that I needed to learn the most? Someone who would also love me deeply and be faithful to me?

I am not expecting answers from posters. These are rhetorical questions I am asking myself. God most certainly does work in the most mysterious of ways.

And if you're a non-believer, I do not mean to get religious. Just ignore my talk about God if you are a non-believer. I do not intend to get into any debates about whether there is a God or not. It's not the point of this post. I am just super curious about how my prayer was answered. I find it to be most interesting and curious, leaving me scratching my head and wondering.

And if you haven't known this yet about me, I am a spiritual medium, which I recently let be known in the more senior forum. My guide is the ArchAngel Michael. He has been guiding me and with me for the last ten years, or as far as I know. He let himself be known to me ten years ago through what is called "automatic writing". That is all I will say.