"With current T, there's not that same level of understanding or reassurance as with ex-MC. But lately I feel accepted by him. And this may seem like such a seemingly minor thing on the surface, but it's like he notices things about me. He'll ask if a shirt I'm wearing is new (he's generally right) or compliment my shoes (like printed sneakers, not like heels or anything). If I seem to get randomly upset in the middle of him talking, he'll ask what's going on. If I seem anxious (well, more so than usual), he'll comment on that and ask what it's about. Where if I seem anxious to H, he'll seem annoyed, if anything. If I'm crying, he wouldn't generally say anything. So it's like I feel really seen by T. (Even though I'm aware he's trained to pick up on body language, etc. as a T.) "

This is exactly what I was saying, you are missing something with H and seeking it from other men, things that your H should be able to give you. That was why I was saying, you should talk to T about this and figure out what, if anything, you can do to fix it. You ideally should be feeling like you are really seen by the person you chose to marry. I truly do think MC would be good for you guys again, with a woman but that's up to you both obviously.