I am not all that keen on blaming parents for everything. I think even the most well intentioned parents get things wrong. My own parents were incredibly well intentioned. But one parent at least was completely mis-matched with me. I don't see, for me, what the point would have been in blaming her for anything. (the therapists disagreed with me and constantly used overly emotional/hysterical language to describe things - but even had I agreed with them - I still don't know what difference it would have made)