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Originally Posted by SilverTrees
Thank you Ennie. That is an interesting perspective. I could provide more detail and it would make more sense but it would be way too long to post here. She did make a snide joke about a major trauma my other half and I experienced a few months ago. That was unnecessary and I'm not sure why she did that. For what it's worth, my other half is not a fan. He thinks she's "mixed up." She's been having a relationship with a man who is involved with someone else and then she gets upset with him even though she knows this is what he does....it's been going on for quite some time. I used to just listen and not comment because it wasn't my place to. But perhaps if you're mixed up in one relationship, you can be mixed up in a friendship too? Anyway, as I said, I'm not angry and wish her peace. Thank you for the message and the hug.
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She's definitely a bad news then. It looks like she is not sincere and you were able to detect that beyond the surface.
Her joking about someone else's trauma is extremely unhealthy (not to mention sadistic and malignant). Had she remained close to you, she could have made more of these jokes. I know it hurts right now, but in a way, it is healthier for you that she is no longer close enough to cause further damage.
And I have found it true that a person mixed up in a relationship can be mixed up in a friendship also. I've learned that I cannot think of myself as an "exception" with a person of such character. Because actions demonstrate what someone is capable of, I need to assume: If she can do it to someone else, she can do it to me also.
You deserve a better friend than her.
