I was emotionally abused as a child by family members as well as neglected by my parents (along with a whole host of other things). I do diferentiate between the emotional abuse and the neglect. The emotional abuse created a false self image and a lot of tapes that run through my head negatively impacting my life the loudest one being you are not good enough. The neglect created anxiety and the self perception that I was too much and behaviors like stockpiling food and a false definition of wants and needs.
Having also been physical and sexually abused I can say for me, without a doubt the neglect and the emotional abuse are much more invasive and harder to heal.
My current T started to do the foundations with me for EMDR to process the multiple traumas in my life. Because of the extreme extent of the neglect by my (well meaning) parents we had to stop. Now he is trying to teach me things an infant is born knowing how to do. The biggest one is asking for things. My parents believed I was just a smart baby/child when I would do things for myself. They never saw the life skills and parenting moments that doing things like changing my diaper or feeding me my bottle taught.