You won't find in-depth information using keyword neglect.
This article has keywords you can use to search. Developmental theories talk about this a lot, your sense of self and psychological boundaries-the impact of not being treated as a separate person by your parents and instead as an extension, which causes the dependency as your mind works as if it is not separate from your T. Working through the transference with a neutral therapist changes that.
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Developmental theories
In Object Relations theory, early chronic trauma is seen to disrupt the development of understanding the other as a whole, separate being (whole object relations).47–50 This results in an incomplete psychic separation of the subject (the individual) from the mother/important other (object). The lack of separation implies an inability to develop more than one perspective. Without a relativity of perspective (no dichotomy between the person of the self/subject and the person of the other/object), there can be no relativity of meaning or ability to symbolize. 48 Without a capacity to distinguish ‘me’ from all that is ‘not me’, boundaries between others, between events, and between times become blurred. This is also reflected ‘within’ the person who does not develop a differentiation between the psychic mind, the physical body, emotional life, and cognitive capabilities. Although some parts may develop into working units (the physical body and cognitive elements), they remain disconnected from each other. Other aspects, such as emotions and language around emotions, can then bear the brunt of the trauma and function poorly.
Attachment theorists have borrowed heavily from Object Relations as it describes in depth various relationship types that then set the scene for subsequent problems in adult relationships and dissociative symptoms.31,40,51 Attachments between a caregiver and an infant can be categorized as ‘secure (the infant cries at separation and is quickly comforted at reunion), insecure-avoidant (the infant does not cry at separation and actively avoids the caregiver on reunion), and insecure-ambivalent (the infant cries at separation, but is not easily comforted on reunion)’ (p. 472, original italics).40 When the infant cannot organize according to any coherent pattern, the attachment is classified as disorganized. It is this style, and that of avoidant, that is linked with dissociation in the adult.31 The goal of therapy is the correction of the ‘internal working model’ (p. 483) the individual experienced as a child,40 and developing capacities for secure attachments.13
Psychodynamic psychotherapy for complex trauma: targets, focus, applications, and outcomes
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I think using the Complex PTSD keywords may turn up articles that may point you to information you are looking for. There is a ton of stuff online about C-PTSD. Here are also some books some seem to find helpful.
Judith Herman and the Formulation of C-PTSD
Body Keeps Score
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving
Children growing up as extensions of another are sometimes written about using terms such as covert narcissism, vulnerable narcissism, and codependency.
Tiny Buddha People Pleasers
Boundaries
Caretaker Personality Traits
There are many threads here on books that may be helpful to you.
I favor Object Relations/Developmental Theories as it's the only perspective I found to be in depth and all-inclusive of everything, focusing on transformation rather than primarily on behaviors and attachment. It also includes transference, defenses and psychological boundaries, which C-PTSD doesn't describe or address well. While you can find some through google, you have to read psychodynamic books to learn about it as most articles are not accessible through searches. Unless of course you have access to databases. They are all written by psychoanalysts and referred to as psychodynamic. Here are some.
Psychoanalytic Diagnosis
Healing Developmental Trauma
I found this reading list to be the best source:
Psychodynamic Psychotherapy Essential Reading List
Developmental trauma from a more general perspective:
Developmental Trauma Disorder
I promised you some articles the other day, so there it is.