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I did good things as a mom too though. I gave all my money and time... always gave whatever I had first to my daughter. I did always put my own needs last. I spent lots of time with her. Always there after school, played games, talked and laughed a lot, allowed friends over and took them all places... I did good things too... But I do recognize the mistakes.
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You ended up with a daughter that is very entitled. This can happen when you give your child too much unfortunately. You did the best you could, it's not easy to raise a child and we all make mistakes.
You can't change her now either, she likes to guilt trip you and look down on you. The best thing you can do is distance even though that might hurt. She has to grow up, you don't owe her anything either. She is an adult now and should be taking care of herself.
You sound like you have come to believe that you have to be a codependent and allow her to control you and guilt trip you. Well, you really don't have to be a codependent and you should not be feeling guilt about taking care of your OWN needs for a change.